I’ve been reflecting more deeply on how language shapes not just identity but also leadership.
Because sometimes, the most powerful messages are the ones we never hear directly. They’re subtle. And often completely unconscious.
They’re what I call unconscious drivers – the beliefs and assumptions, and phrases that we absorb from our environment, sometimes without even realizing it.
They show up in passing comments, policies, decisions and in the stories we tell ourselves.
They can sound like:
“That’s just how things are done here.”
“It’s a tough environment for a woman.”
“You’re not a good fit”
They may seem like just small messages but they can have such a powerful effect as they influence who gets heard, who gets promoted, and who feels like they belong.
In my TEDx, I said:
“Language shapes identity. And it can either affirm or fracture a child’s sense of self.”
But it’s not just about children. It’s about all of us.
Unconscious drivers influence how we lead, how we listen, and what we value, unless we bring it into conscious awareness.
So here’s my invitation:
Start getting curious about your unconscious drivers – the ones you’ve inherited, absorbed, or repeated without noticing.
Because when we notice them, we can reframe them.
And when we reframe them we create space for more inclusive, authentic leadership.
In my next post, I’ll share 3 practical ways leaders can start recognizing and reframing these patterns in themselves and in their teams.
What’s one belief or message that you’ve heard (or said) at work that might be worth revisiting?
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